Random musings

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

It’s worth a read..

And it’s dense, by which I mean not fluffy but packed with insight. He spent years researching and developing this book, and his own struggle is woven into it. Indeed, it’s not about formulas and answers, but about the struggle itself.

One observation set me back. There are lots of people who wanted to do one thing but then got “practical” and did something else “first.” The idea was that they’d be successful and sock away money doing the practical thing, and after that they could go back to the thing they loved. Bronson was sure that, among the hundreds of people that he interviewed, someone would actually have been successful with this strategy. It sounds so reasonable, after all.

But he encountered exactly zero people who pulled it off. Everyone who tried got sucked into the “practical” career and were never able to extract themselves from it. Too comfortable, too many expectations from friends and family, too easy just to keep doing what you’re doing.

Although we admire when someone can do something unique and creative, society is set up to resist such attempts. Your parents, with all the love and best intentions, will urge you to do something that “makes a good living.” Your friends and coworkers resist behaviors that might take you away from them, and will tell you stories of how this or that person tried and failed. And hardest of all, when you are ready to make your leap of faith, the temptations appear; the tremendous opportunities that for some reason only come out of the woodwork when you are ready to walk out the door.

There’s a quote that appears again and again in various forms: “close one door, another opens.” It seems like magical thinking until you see it happen. And it only happens when you don’t leave the door partially open, but instead firmly close it. For some reason, being certain that you’re ready to move on does cause some kind of magic to happen, and I don’t know why.

This doesn’t mean it will be easy. But your struggles will be towards happiness rather than trying to avoid some litany of unpleasant things as most people do — and most people (over 80% in this country, it appears) are unhappy in their careers. And knowing that you are moving towards something that you love (even if you don’t yet know what it is) seems more likely to make you happy than just marking time in a job, waiting for something to happen so you can start doing what you really want.

I am not sure about you but a lot of people around me have advice me to wait for the perfect time to do something.

When I was young, I was told to wait for the perfect time to start having fun, and concentrate completely on my studies. I was told that this is the most important part of my life and once I graduate, with that shiny degree I would be able to do whatever I wish.

Once graduated, I was told to grab a job – start saving and once I have saved enough, paid my dues to the society I would be free to do whatever I wish.

And so on, I wonder when this cycle of advice will end and when will I be able to do “whatever” I wish?
The common theme across all the advice that I received was to meet a certain personal set of conditions before I can make the next move in my life. Now think about all the advices you received, the choices you made and realize that those were nothing but excuses. Blaming some outside force that we can’t control, creating obstacles that aren’t actually there. Soon I realized that this becomes a never ending trap. All sort of thoughts start to come to our mind. “I can’t pursue this dream unless I leave my job and I can’t leave my job since I need to pay bills”.

Another scenario is when we start thinking that we have thousand of problems in our life. We start to rant about anything that’s causing us to stress and fail to do anything to correct it. We get overwhelmed by our thoughts and eventually just give up.

The problem is that perfect time doesn’t exist. It’s illusive. It’s misleading. You will end up waiting for it all your life.

There will never be a perfect time to pursue your dreams, to do something valuable, to make a difference. No matter when you make these choices, there will always be a risk factor.

So my only advice to myself and people around me is to stop waiting. Create change in your life; create change in other people’s life. There is no such thing as “perfection” and there certainly isn’t any perfect time.